Over-egging the importance of being four years old

Over-egging the importance of being four years old

Over-egging the importance of being four years old

First published in What's On Daily Echo: Photograph of the Author by , Education Reporter

I THINK Ben is having a bit of a crisis of confidence at the moment. I blame myself. I think I over-egged how important it was going to be turning four.

I had hoped the frequent pep talks I gave him on how being four meant he was a big boy and with him going to school now it would mean him doing as he was told more, because they just wouldn’t put up with it in class.

I probably laid it on a bit thick so that he probably felt he had to raise his game in every area of his life in order to meet the required standard that being four demanded.

It got to the point where I was saying real four-year-olds definitely ate all their peas and carrots and there was no question he would have to wipe his own bum now he was of age.

In the days after his fourth birthday when he had fully come down from the high of a days’ worth of present opening and chocolate cake for lunch the depression set in as he bemoaned the anti-climax of being the big four.

On many a morning since the big day he has looked down at his feet and up to his hips before stating with unwavering certainty: “I don’t think I am any bigger mummy, my legs are still the same. Well, maybe this one is a bit longer but not much.”

I have to explain that his journey into a fully fledged grown-up wont happen overnight but bit by bit.

This doesn’t go down well as he suggests he will have to be big because he is going to school tomorrow.

I again have to let him down gently with the news that big school is still several months away yet.

He sighs and says: “I really don’t know about this being four mummy, I still feel three.”

To which I reply no one really feels their age except mummies who often feel considerably older because of all the running they do after other people.

This washes over him, he clearly has enough of the world’s problems on his shoulders without me adding mine to them.

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8:37am Wed 1 Jun 11

MSK says...

And then parents wonder why children are growing up so fast!?
And then parents wonder why children are growing up so fast!? MSK
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1:22pm Sat 11 Jun 11

now in the north says...

"I have to explain that his journey into a fully fledged grown-up wont happen overnight but bit by bit. "

So why the big horrah about turning four overnight.

Growing up is a gradual process that takes years. Im 34, and I havent managed it yet BUT quite frankly, who wants to?

Why spoil the innocence of a birthday at such a young age...anti climax for birthdays usually doesnt start until your "grown up" and realise it doesnt mean all that much...way to go in materialising the whole situation though, it only means presents now.

As for, "being four meant he was a big boy...school now it would mean him doing as he was told more, because they just wouldn’t put up with it". Well thats just plain laziness. I cant be bothered so I put up with it but school will sort it out for me?

So all REAL four-year-olds definitely ate all their peas and carrots and wipe his own bum. Well that must mean he's not a real four year old if he doesnt make that one!

No wonder todays children are so much more confused.

Why not raise, non-paranoid, non-pressurised, non-egotistical, non-confused, non-depressed, non-anti-climaxed children.
"I have to explain that his journey into a fully fledged grown-up wont happen overnight but bit by bit. " So why the big horrah about turning four overnight. Growing up is a gradual process that takes years. Im 34, and I havent managed it yet BUT quite frankly, who wants to? Why spoil the innocence of a birthday at such a young age...anti climax for birthdays usually doesnt start until your "grown up" and realise it doesnt mean all that much...way to go in materialising the whole situation though, it only means presents now. As for, "being four meant he was a big boy...school now it would mean him doing as he was told more, because they just wouldn’t put up with it". Well thats just plain laziness. I cant be bothered so I put up with it but school will sort it out for me? So all REAL four-year-olds definitely ate all their peas and carrots and wipe his own bum. Well that must mean he's not a real four year old if he doesnt make that one! No wonder todays children are so much more confused. Why not raise, non-paranoid, non-pressurised, non-egotistical, non-confused, non-depressed, non-anti-climaxed children. now in the north
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1:24pm Sat 11 Jun 11

now in the north says...

appologies for being jumbled, one finger typing while breastfeeding!
appologies for being jumbled, one finger typing while breastfeeding! now in the north
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