Counting the cost of being tight

Daily Echo: Counting the cost of being tight Counting the cost of being tight

SOME people have a strange attitude to money. I am very bad in this area – I can spend £20 walking down the road and yet have nothing to show for it.

However, I would rather have my slightly casual attitude to cash than be a tightwad.

A few years ago, I was at an old friend’s birthday celebrations and a group of 15 of us had gone to his favourite restaurant.

The meal was fine everyone was in good spirits, until the awkward moment when the bill arrived.

Everyone roughly totted up what they had, rounded it up and threw £20 into the pot.

However, I noticed a small group at the end of the table, who had been guzzling wine all night, painstakingly counting out a very small pile of coins.

Unsurprisingly, the total came up short and these scroungers looked around as confused as everyone else as if butter wouldn’t melt in their mouths – butter they would, no doubt, have expected my dining companions and I to pay for.

Embarrassed, everyone else chipped in a few extra pounds while these people kept their hands in their pockets.

They would have got away with this if one had not arrogantly complained they had already paid more than their meal cost by several pence. With empty bottles piled up in front of them, they grudgingly handed over another handful of coins.

I was appalled at their conduct but later found from female friends that some men adopt a penny-pinching attitude to dating.

If I go out on a date I am in no financial position to dazzle a lady friend with splendour but I do think it polite to pay for our first outing.

But a friend of mine told me recently how she agreed to go on a date with someone who was on romantic economy drive.

After asking what she wanted to drink he avoided eye contact with bar staff until she reached for her purse.

After dinner, the waitress asked the pair if they would like another round of drinks. He wrinkled his nose and looked concerned before saying a line that I am sure has never got a woman in a frisky mood.

“I’ll get this round if you pay for the puddings.”

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8:45pm Tue 10 May 11

MrHarsh says...

Well Simon, we are of the same mind. I come from a generation where not getting your round in is the worst possible social sin. As I was doing my romancing in the early 80s, though, you could get slapped in the face for offering to pay for your date's dinner or drinks. These days, I pay for everything in the pub, once Mrs Harsh has handed me the cash!
No real laughs this week but otherwise faultless. Another 3 Harsh effort. Keep it up. Non illegimum and all that
Well Simon, we are of the same mind. I come from a generation where not getting your round in is the worst possible social sin. As I was doing my romancing in the early 80s, though, you could get slapped in the face for offering to pay for your date's dinner or drinks. These days, I pay for everything in the pub, once Mrs Harsh has handed me the cash! No real laughs this week but otherwise faultless. Another 3 Harsh effort. Keep it up. Non illegimum and all that MrHarsh
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9:50am Wed 11 May 11

Rob444 says...

Not many people have plenty of spare cash to throw around these days.

Also, with the state that the country is in, nobody's job is safe, so it makes sense not to be a spendthrift.
Not many people have plenty of spare cash to throw around these days. Also, with the state that the country is in, nobody's job is safe, so it makes sense not to be a spendthrift. Rob444
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11:13am Sun 15 May 11

freemantlegirl2 says...

I've always offered to go halves on any dates but if the man genuinely wanted to pay I would accept on condition that I paid the next time or something. Some guys get genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay or pay halves and that's cool. However, i really cannot stand tightwads who do it all the time constantly and not just in the context of the relationship but to everyone - it's amazing how this is such a romance killer!

If we have group meals, drinks bill is separate so that avoids that situation happening. People often forget after a few too how much they've drunk too but some don't and still keep stum.
I've always offered to go halves on any dates but if the man genuinely wanted to pay I would accept on condition that I paid the next time or something. Some guys get genuinely offended if a woman offers to pay or pay halves and that's cool. However, i really cannot stand tightwads who do it all the time constantly and not just in the context of the relationship but to everyone - it's amazing how this is such a romance killer! If we have group meals, drinks bill is separate so that avoids that situation happening. People often forget after a few too how much they've drunk too but some don't and still keep stum. freemantlegirl2
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11:06pm Sun 15 May 11

Exiled Saint says...

Its cheaper to buy a hooker than a meal for two + drinks anyway ;)
Its cheaper to buy a hooker than a meal for two + drinks anyway ;) Exiled Saint
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