Young Southampton mum heartbroken as thieves desecrate her baby son's grave

Young Southampton mum heartbroken as thieves desecrate her baby son's grave

DEVASTATED: Kelly Parker at the grave of her son Leon.

BRAVE FIGHT: Kelly Parker pictured with her son Leon in May.

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A MUM has been left heartbroken after the grave of her 11-month-old son was desecrated by thieves weeks after his death.

Still struggling to come to terms with the loss of her son Leon last month Kelly Parker was devastated to discover that his grave has been targeted by thieves.

The young mum has spent hours tending to her son’s resting place, covering it with Astroturf, flowers and colourful solar lights because he loved having them in his bedroom.

But when she visited St Mary Extra Cemetery in Southampton she found the grave trashed, with two of the solar lamps stolen and teddy bears smashed.

As reported by the Daily Echo Leon was 11 months old when he died on July 5 after battling a rare genetic disease D-Bifunctional Protein Deficiency.

His death devastated his community, which rallied together in grief to raise up to £4,000 for the courageous youngster’s funeral.

He was diagnosed with the disease in November 2013 and lived much longer than doctors had expected but he lost his battle after contracting a chest infection and pneumonia.

It is believed the theft and damage at the cemetery in Portsmouth Road happened between midday on July 28 and 5.30pm on July 30.

Kelly, 20, said: “He was a very loved and well known little boy by people all over Southampton and other places.

“I can’t understand why somebody would do this to his grave as they can quite clearly see it is a baby’s grave. I am upset and angry to think that anybody could do this.

“I spent time making his grave just how he would like it. He loved bright colours and would always have the lights on in his bedroom at night and I just wanted to make it as good as I could for him.

“Whoever is responsible has done this for no reason as there is no money to be made from these solar lights. All they have done is upset me and my family and ruined a baby’s grave, it’s disgusting.”

Anyone with information should contact PC Mark Hawley at Bitterne police station on 101 or Crime-stoppers on 0800 555 111.

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10:06am Wed 6 Aug 14

elvisimo says...

generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.
generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today. elvisimo
  • Score: 22

10:30am Wed 6 Aug 14

excusemoi says...

The low life(s) are getting even lower, they target anything now. I feel so sad for the baby's mum.
The low life(s) are getting even lower, they target anything now. I feel so sad for the baby's mum. excusemoi
  • Score: 27

11:05am Wed 6 Aug 14

southy says...

elvisimo wrote:
generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.
How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking.

Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there.
[quote][p][bold]elvisimo[/bold] wrote: generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.[/p][/quote]How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking. Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there. southy
  • Score: -24

12:10pm Wed 6 Aug 14

camerajuan says...

southy wrote:
elvisimo wrote:
generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.
How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking.

Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there.
Your sense of decency doesn't disappear when you're smashed to this extent. I know because I've been smashed and I've never thought that destroying a grave and stealing some decorations from it was a good idea.

I work full time, I don't live in Chilworth and I'm not on benefits, I ate at the Giddy Bridge last night but that doesn't count - Steak Tuesdays , 14oz Aberdeen Angus & Chips for a tenner. Result!
[quote][p][bold]southy[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]elvisimo[/bold] wrote: generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.[/p][/quote]How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking. Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there.[/p][/quote]Your sense of decency doesn't disappear when you're smashed to this extent. I know because I've been smashed and I've never thought that destroying a grave and stealing some decorations from it was a good idea. I work full time, I don't live in Chilworth and I'm not on benefits, I ate at the Giddy Bridge last night but that doesn't count - Steak Tuesdays , 14oz Aberdeen Angus & Chips for a tenner. Result! camerajuan
  • Score: 3

12:11pm Wed 6 Aug 14

sparkster says...

It seems even the deceased cant rest in peace now, it's awful to lose anyone but losing a child i cant even begin to imagine
It seems even the deceased cant rest in peace now, it's awful to lose anyone but losing a child i cant even begin to imagine sparkster
  • Score: 5

12:14pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Woolston ollie says...

Find them, shoot them lowlife scum
Find them, shoot them lowlife scum Woolston ollie
  • Score: 8

12:44pm Wed 6 Aug 14

southy says...

camerajuan wrote:
southy wrote:
elvisimo wrote:
generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.
How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking.

Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there.
Your sense of decency doesn't disappear when you're smashed to this extent. I know because I've been smashed and I've never thought that destroying a grave and stealing some decorations from it was a good idea.

I work full time, I don't live in Chilworth and I'm not on benefits, I ate at the Giddy Bridge last night but that doesn't count - Steak Tuesdays , 14oz Aberdeen Angus & Chips for a tenner. Result!
Was that aim at me or elvisimo who played the blame card onto people on benefits, if aim at me please read elvisimo post first.
[quote][p][bold]camerajuan[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]southy[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]elvisimo[/bold] wrote: generation scum strikes again. Still its Wednesday - isn't that benefit day? - they will be safely in Wetherspoons today.[/p][/quote]How do you know its people on benefits, it could be your well off people from Chilworth after partying and heavy drinking. Its sad things like this happening there are some mindless morons out there.[/p][/quote]Your sense of decency doesn't disappear when you're smashed to this extent. I know because I've been smashed and I've never thought that destroying a grave and stealing some decorations from it was a good idea. I work full time, I don't live in Chilworth and I'm not on benefits, I ate at the Giddy Bridge last night but that doesn't count - Steak Tuesdays , 14oz Aberdeen Angus & Chips for a tenner. Result![/p][/quote]Was that aim at me or elvisimo who played the blame card onto people on benefits, if aim at me please read elvisimo post first. southy
  • Score: -1

12:50pm Wed 6 Aug 14

southy says...

sparkster wrote:
It seems even the deceased cant rest in peace now, it's awful to lose anyone but losing a child i cant even begin to imagine
Agreed, some thing needs to be done about these types of people
[quote][p][bold]sparkster[/bold] wrote: It seems even the deceased cant rest in peace now, it's awful to lose anyone but losing a child i cant even begin to imagine[/p][/quote]Agreed, some thing needs to be done about these types of people southy
  • Score: 1

2:10pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Saints n Winners says...

Dear Kelly,

At the moment, this will be really hurting, and I cannot help but feel for you like many members of the public who will read this. In time you will truly realise that this act is not personal, it is just a sad act by youths with no moral compass.

This act will not effect your little one who is out of pain now, just you and your family. In time it will get easier to look back on this incident with no pain.

I truly hope they find these thugs, and they are publically embarrassed, for your sake.
Dear Kelly, At the moment, this will be really hurting, and I cannot help but feel for you like many members of the public who will read this. In time you will truly realise that this act is not personal, it is just a sad act by youths with no moral compass. This act will not effect your little one who is out of pain now, just you and your family. In time it will get easier to look back on this incident with no pain. I truly hope they find these thugs, and they are publically embarrassed, for your sake. Saints n Winners
  • Score: 20

2:53pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Shoong says...

I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin. Shoong
  • Score: 0

3:00pm Wed 6 Aug 14

sotonscotty says...

Shoong wrote:
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
easy option DEPORT THE SCUM. I don't think for 1 minute we would get away with that sort of behaviour in their countries. Deport and list their names so they cannot get back into the UK. The most pathetic part is that we are probably paying them benefits to be here. Lets get UKIP in and get out of the EEC
[quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]easy option DEPORT THE SCUM. I don't think for 1 minute we would get away with that sort of behaviour in their countries. Deport and list their names so they cannot get back into the UK. The most pathetic part is that we are probably paying them benefits to be here. Lets get UKIP in and get out of the EEC sotonscotty
  • Score: -3

3:26pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Woolston ollie says...

sotonscotty wrote:
Shoong wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
easy option DEPORT THE SCUM. I don't think for 1 minute we would get away with that sort of behaviour in their countries. Deport and list their names so they cannot get back into the UK. The most pathetic part is that we are probably paying them benefits to be here. Lets get UKIP in and get out of the EEC
Yes im in total agreement if any of the immigrant children break the law deport them and the rest of their family. About time we got tougher with the lowlife we are letting in.
[quote][p][bold]sotonscotty[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]easy option DEPORT THE SCUM. I don't think for 1 minute we would get away with that sort of behaviour in their countries. Deport and list their names so they cannot get back into the UK. The most pathetic part is that we are probably paying them benefits to be here. Lets get UKIP in and get out of the EEC[/p][/quote]Yes im in total agreement if any of the immigrant children break the law deport them and the rest of their family. About time we got tougher with the lowlife we are letting in. Woolston ollie
  • Score: 7

3:31pm Wed 6 Aug 14

KayleighJade says...

As I said on another article relating to this poor lad, it truly is tragic that in this day and age even the deceased aren't safe from vandals and thugs.
As I said on another article relating to this poor lad, it truly is tragic that in this day and age even the deceased aren't safe from vandals and thugs. KayleighJade
  • Score: 4

3:55pm Wed 6 Aug 14

amandamahon6 says...

so sad for this young mum why do people do this there is just no respect towards others these days hope they find them and show them on the front of the echo so all can see the people that would stoop this low
so sad for this young mum why do people do this there is just no respect towards others these days hope they find them and show them on the front of the echo so all can see the people that would stoop this low amandamahon6
  • Score: 6

5:02pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Lone Ranger. says...

Shoong wrote:
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe
[quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe Lone Ranger.
  • Score: 2

5:11pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Shoong says...

Lone Ranger. wrote:
Shoong wrote:
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe
Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good.

Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff...
[quote][p][bold]Lone Ranger.[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe[/p][/quote]Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good. Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff... Shoong
  • Score: -3

8:09pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Lone Ranger. says...

Shoong wrote:
Lone Ranger. wrote:
Shoong wrote:
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe
Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good.

Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff...
Still i suppose it would be better than having the potential Tory party MP equivilent to Mr Pastry .....
[quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Lone Ranger.[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe[/p][/quote]Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good. Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff...[/p][/quote]Still i suppose it would be better than having the potential Tory party MP equivilent to Mr Pastry ..... Lone Ranger.
  • Score: 2

8:29pm Wed 6 Aug 14

Shoong says...

Lone Ranger. wrote:
Shoong wrote:
Lone Ranger. wrote:
Shoong wrote:
I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words.

On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.
Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe
Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good.

Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff...
Still i suppose it would be better than having the potential Tory party MP equivilent to Mr Pastry .....
Nope.
[quote][p][bold]Lone Ranger.[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Lone Ranger.[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Shoong[/bold] wrote: I have a friend in the Soton police, he has arrested 3 gangs this year, twice at the Hill Lane site, 'what they can't steal from the graves they just break' were his words. On all 3 occasions it has been a mix of boys and girls of Eastern European origin.[/p][/quote]Hang on a minute ....... You have a friend !! ........ that i find very difficult to believe[/p][/quote]Coming from a 'Lone Ranger', that's good. Stranger things have happened, though I suspect your mate Ed Milliband becoming PM is true Twilight Zone stuff...[/p][/quote]Still i suppose it would be better than having the potential Tory party MP equivilent to Mr Pastry .....[/p][/quote]Nope. Shoong
  • Score: -3

9:30am Fri 8 Aug 14

Hillview says...

I feel so sorry for this family. I reported a few weeks ago about theft from my parents grave at the same Cemetery. Last weekend I watched two women visit a grave in the children section and they had eight kids wih them (two in pushchairs). The six kids (who I would guess were all less than 8 years old) were running around picking flowers and moving things from other graves. The two women said nothing to them. I was going to say something but they were not the type you would approach, fearing for your own safety. I wish now I had said something or at least taken pictures. The sad thing is that from the foul language coming from both the women and children is was clear that they were English. It is clear that some people have no respect for the dead. What a sad world we live in.
I feel so sorry for this family. I reported a few weeks ago about theft from my parents grave at the same Cemetery. Last weekend I watched two women visit a grave in the children section and they had eight kids wih them (two in pushchairs). The six kids (who I would guess were all less than 8 years old) were running around picking flowers and moving things from other graves. The two women said nothing to them. I was going to say something but they were not the type you would approach, fearing for your own safety. I wish now I had said something or at least taken pictures. The sad thing is that from the foul language coming from both the women and children is was clear that they were English. It is clear that some people have no respect for the dead. What a sad world we live in. Hillview
  • Score: 2

3:03pm Mon 11 Aug 14

andywhite1970 says...

i'm on benefits and i served my countryand a drunk driver destroyed my nerves so i live in constant pain....this terrible act should ot be trashed by stupid comments by obviously ill informed morons making truly dumb comments when the very crime is belittled by someone who is as dumb and moronic as the disgraceful barely human beings who could do such a vile and disgusting act...nothing would give me more pleasure than to punish those responsible and do it for free and i would probable enjoy it...this is so evil i am just in shock about how members of our species have lwered the bar...again.... elvisimo your comment is just as stupid as the people who have done this maybe you should be clearer in your thinking to more arcuratly accuse people that were responsible and not brand people by bad luck or unfortunate circumstances when comments should focus on what has happened than wasting words on you and deflecting the subject away from this family and be offended by quite frankly a plain and very simple idiot...you just in case you needed better directions..... My heart goes to this young mother and the devistation and shock she is feeling...i am so sorry that our dead can no longer rest in peace.....
i'm on benefits and i served my countryand a drunk driver destroyed my nerves so i live in constant pain....this terrible act should ot be trashed by stupid comments by obviously ill informed morons making truly dumb comments when the very crime is belittled by someone who is as dumb and moronic as the disgraceful barely human beings who could do such a vile and disgusting act...nothing would give me more pleasure than to punish those responsible and do it for free and i would probable enjoy it...this is so evil i am just in shock about how members of our species have lwered the bar...again.... elvisimo your comment is just as stupid as the people who have done this maybe you should be clearer in your thinking to more arcuratly accuse people that were responsible and not brand people by bad luck or unfortunate circumstances when comments should focus on what has happened than wasting words on you and deflecting the subject away from this family and be offended by quite frankly a plain and very simple idiot...you just in case you needed better directions..... My heart goes to this young mother and the devistation and shock she is feeling...i am so sorry that our dead can no longer rest in peace..... andywhite1970
  • Score: 0

4:51pm Sat 23 Aug 14

mr.southampton says...

So sad, its shocking anyone would do that, my heart goes out to his family xx
So sad, its shocking anyone would do that, my heart goes out to his family xx mr.southampton
  • Score: 0

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