What drives a loving dad to kill his children? (From Daily Echo)
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What drives a loving dad to kill his children?
10:28am Tuesday 23rd September 2008 in News
By Paula Thompson, Senior Feature Writer
Why did he do it? Dave Cass smothered his daughters
PAULA THOMPSON asks why a doting dad like Dave Cass would kill his children.
THE children are dressed and sit excitedly in the back of the car, wondering where Daddy is going to take them. But this is no happy family outing. In fact, the very man they love and look to for protection is driving them to their deaths.
On Father’s Day this year, Brian Philcox drove Amy, seven, and Owen, three, to a remote beauty spot in North Wales where he gassed them and himself with exhaust fumes from his car.
He had planned the murder carefully and even sent a chilling text message to their mother, his ex wife, saying: “I’ve left you a present.”
It is a horrific crime made all the more disturbing by its sickeningly familiarity. In 2006 dad John Hogan threw his sixyear- old son Liam over a fourth-floor balcony to his death after rowing with his wife on a family holiday.
In April this year, Chris Townsend – who was said to be locked in a bitter divorce battle with his wife – hanged himself after torching his house and killing his six-year-old son Charlie.
Then, last month, fallen millionaire businessman Christopher Foster shot his unsuspecting teenage daughter in the back of the head, before shooting his wife as she slept, torching their mansion and then turning the rifle on himself.
Now Southampton dad Dave Cass has joined this tragic roll call of murderous fathers. While the circumstances remain unclear, police believe the 32-year-old killed his two daughters, aged one and three, before hanging himself.
The self-employed MoT tester phoned his family to tell them he planned to kill his daughters but the warning was too late to save them. Bafflingly, those who knew him, describe the father as a “doting family man” which make his actions utterly incomprehensible.
How do seemingly loving fathers like Brian Philcox, John Hogan and Chris Townsend knowingly murder their own children?
Are they driven by hatred, despair, anger or insanity? And can their actions ever be excused or are these men simply evil? Psychologists cite mental illness as a huge driving factor behind murder-suicides, or “family-annihilations” as they are called in America. Some parents may have decided life is no longer worth living and truly believe it kinder to take their children with them.
Desire for revenge Experts also believe anger and a desire for revenge can cause dads to commit murder-suicide. Leading Hampshire forensic and clinical psychologist Dr Ludwig Lowenstein says: “I have seen many cases where the hatred for someone is more powerful than the love for the children. Usually it is hatred towards a partner or ex-partner.
“Also, fathers can sometimes feel that another male figure will take their place and leave them on the outside. It is very sad but a combination of depression and a sense of helplessness – a feeling that they will lose their children anyway – can and does drive people to do this. They feel there is no alternative.”
When Perry Samuel asphyxiated his children Caitlin, five, and Aidan, three, the judge cited the motive as malice against his estranged spouse. And when Gavin Hall drugged his four-year-old daughter Millie before suffocating her with a chloroform-soaked rag, he had just discovered his wife was having an affair.
But it is not just men who are capable of murdering their children – 78 per cent of child murders are committed by the parents – and mums are just as likely to be the killers as dads. Nadine Taylor, campaign co-ordinator for Fathers 4 Justice is calling for a national helpline for distressed dads.
“There is deep-rooted sympathy for the mother and child bond,” she says.
“Everyone is very quick to talk about post natal depression, but fathers get depressed as well. It is deeply destructive to label these men as evil. For a person to do something like this they have gone beyond the rational stage of thought. In some cases they do face losing their children and it’s like a living bereavement.”
Comments(16)
Redhat
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12:56pm Tue 23 Sep 08
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But NOTHING can ever excuse ANY parent for killing their own children!!! i dont care a toss what reason they have to even think of something so evil,to a vulnerable child that THEY bought into this world and decided to create..
If you want to kill your children, you are a very twisted,evil,selfish
,unloving filth of the highest degree!! why punish family,relatives and friends,through your selfishness,self-cen
tered thoughts...ok your partner left you- DEAL WITH IT!!... dont take the easy,cowardly way out.. go get help!! it is out there..
This post is not meant to offend anyone and i apologise if it has... i just feel so strongly about this,that i cant even get my words out...
To all the dads out there, go get help!!! dont take the easy way out.. you leave ppl behind who have to live with this forever..or dont you give a ****?????....
As for Dave... you took your failed relationship out on your 2 special girls.. for that i hope u rot in hell for all eternity.
hulla baloo
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1:21pm Tue 23 Sep 08
Whilst we have not been made aware of the full details, one does wonder to what degree, the ex wife/girlfriend plays in this tragedy.
So often the children are used as pawns in the adults battles, and maybe she was threatening him with never letting him see the children again.
goard
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2:19pm Tue 23 Sep 08
goard
hevbro
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8:11pm Tue 23 Sep 08
xx
hevbro
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8:30pm Tue 23 Sep 08
prouse
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8:39pm Tue 23 Sep 08
hevbro
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8:41pm Tue 23 Sep 08
prouse
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9:19pm Tue 23 Sep 08
Rachie
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9:51pm Tue 23 Sep 08
hevbro wrote:Hev, you are truly disillusioned. I have a frisson of pity for Mr Cass, and I have a lot of sympathy for his parents and family.
dave cass was a very loving and devoted father who was desperate to be with his girls who he loved more than anything.he cuddled his girls to sleep so that he would not be seperated from them again.r.i.p dave no more torment you at peace with your little girls that you cauldnt live without.heatherxxxxx
xx
However, this man did not 'cuddle' his daughters to death. He smothered them. He planned and executed their death.
Please don't try us insult our intelligence. Next you'll be saying Ian Brady loved his victims to death.
Quite Frankly
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10:31pm Tue 23 Sep 08
Finlay
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2:26am Wed 24 Sep 08
I guess I would feel pi**** if I couldn't see my kids but if I was in downhill mode and the only way is down, then would I let my estranged spouse have them by hanging myself?
Tough call
hevbro
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7:33am Wed 24 Sep 08
Rachie
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12:00pm Wed 24 Sep 08
I always think about what I say, but clearly this man did not 'cuddle' his children to death and it insults me that I'm supposed to accept this bubbles and balloons phrase.
Read back and you'll see that at no point have a I passed judgement on Mr Cass, and I do indeed express sympathy to his family.
nosy parker
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6:15pm Wed 24 Sep 08
DadsLoveTheirKidsToo
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11:47am Fri 26 Sep 08
Also wondering how Nadine Taylor has managed to get involved with this article calling herself the Fathers 4 Justice campaign coordinator, when her partner disbanded "his" organisation 2 weeks ago. Also wondering where all the £30 membership fees have gone?
laura1980
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5:50pm Sat 27 Sep 08
hevbro wrote:i totally agree with you heather i have known dave & his family for many years & i know that dave was a kind caring loving father who did everything he possibly could for his daughters. he has been branded a monster & evil but dave was nothing like that he was a father who couldnt be without his girls. my heart goes out to both families especially daves as they not only have to deal with the grief of losing dave & the girls but they also have to live with the label that has been put on dave. anyone who knew him knew why he did this & what he was truly like. my deepest sympathies go to both familys & rest in peace dave with your girls you will all be sorely missed
dave cass was a very loving and devoted father who was desperate to be with his girls who he loved more than anything.he cuddled his girls to sleep so that he would not be seperated from them again.r.i.p dave no more torment you at peace with your little girls that you cauldnt live without.heatherxxxxx
xx
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