Human ashes dumped at St Michael and All Angels Church cemetery in Bolton's Bench, Lyndhurst

Daily Echo: St Michael and All Angels Church, Bolton's Bench, Lyndhurst St Michael and All Angels Church, Bolton's Bench, Lyndhurst

A HAMPSHIRE vicar has criticised the people responsible for dumping a large amount of human ashes in a village cemetery.

The Rev Dr James Bruce spoke out after it was revealed that the remains of several people appeared to have been tipped on to the grass at a graveyard near his church.

It happened at Bolton’s Bench, Lyndhurst, in an act the parish council has compared with someone emptying a fireplace.

Dr Bruce, vicar of St Michael and All Angels Church, said the cemetery was under the parish council’s jurisdiction.

But he added: “As a vicar it’s distressing to hear that human ashes have been unceremoniously dumped without any proper respect being shown for the deceased.”

Councillors heard that the remains were found by a maintenance worker.

Parish rules say anyone wishing to scatter ashes at the site should register them with the parish clerk, Margaret Weston, and pay a £115 internment fee.

However, Mrs Weston told members that the unknown remains had been thrown on to the grass.

She added: “To my mind it’s incredibly irreverent. It’s the last thing you do for a person, and yet these ashes have just been dumped there.”

Council chairman Mark Colle added: “It’s like they’re emptying a fireplace – that’s what it sounds like. It’s ridiculous.”

Cllr George Bisson claimed it seemed to be a case of someone saying: “I’m not burying someone, I’m just scattering their ashes, so I can do it where I want.”

Councillors agreed to install another notice highlighting the rules.

Speaking after the meeting Cllr Rolle said: “It was the sheer volume of ashes that caused such disquiet.

“We’ve put a lot of time and energy into mapping the cemetery so that anyone trying to find lost relatives can discover who is where.

“We welcome people leaving ashes but they must go through the proper channels.

“Maybe they didn’t know there was a process to be gone through. I’d hate to think they were just trying to dodge a fee.”

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10:20am Mon 20 Jan 14

KA says...

Maybe they were carrying out the wishes of the deceased...
Maybe they were carrying out the wishes of the deceased... KA

10:27am Mon 20 Jan 14

wwozzer says...

Instead of throwing words like "unceremonious" and "irreverent" around they could try being a little bit more "Christian" about it and just dealing with it.

However the ashes ended up there why not just take care of it in a selfless, non moaning to the press way out of respect for the deceased and compassion for the person who left them there and their possible distressed state of mind rather than carping on about procedure and fees.

I'm sure that this is probably a very rare event in the big scheme of things and I actually find it desperately sad.
Instead of throwing words like "unceremonious" and "irreverent" around they could try being a little bit more "Christian" about it and just dealing with it. However the ashes ended up there why not just take care of it in a selfless, non moaning to the press way out of respect for the deceased and compassion for the person who left them there and their possible distressed state of mind rather than carping on about procedure and fees. I'm sure that this is probably a very rare event in the big scheme of things and I actually find it desperately sad. wwozzer

10:32am Mon 20 Jan 14

SotonLad says...

The fee is ridiculous, no one people are avoiding it.
The fee is ridiculous, no one people are avoiding it. SotonLad

10:41am Mon 20 Jan 14

KA says...

Hmmm..it.seems that they are more worried about the non payment of the £115 fee than they are the deceased...
Hmmm..it.seems that they are more worried about the non payment of the £115 fee than they are the deceased... KA

11:08am Mon 20 Jan 14

Bwaltham30 says...

Perhaps these people couldn't afford the fee and felt they wanted to scatter the ashes of the their loved one there for a personal reason. I see these Christians are prejudging why they did it, I thought it was thou shall not judge?

I doubt very much, the family just dumped the ashes like old fire ash either, and how disrespectful to the family to have to read your thoughts in the paper. This meant something to them, but it's all about the fees these days. It's £115, and if you where that upset and Christian, you'd have held a ceremony for the person regardless of knowing their name.

Rant over.
Perhaps these people couldn't afford the fee and felt they wanted to scatter the ashes of the their loved one there for a personal reason. I see these Christians are prejudging why they did it, I thought it was thou shall not judge? I doubt very much, the family just dumped the ashes like old fire ash either, and how disrespectful to the family to have to read your thoughts in the paper. This meant something to them, but it's all about the fees these days. It's £115, and if you where that upset and Christian, you'd have held a ceremony for the person regardless of knowing their name. Rant over. Bwaltham30

1:34pm Mon 20 Jan 14

southy says...

Why worry about it ashes will end up as part of the soil and enriching the ground allowing for better grass to grow
Why worry about it ashes will end up as part of the soil and enriching the ground allowing for better grass to grow southy

2:05pm Mon 20 Jan 14

Stillness says...

I shall be instructing my son to put my ashes in a bin bag and send it with the rest of the rubbish to land fill. £115:00 is a "RIP" off.
I shall be instructing my son to put my ashes in a bin bag and send it with the rest of the rubbish to land fill. £115:00 is a "RIP" off. Stillness

2:08pm Mon 20 Jan 14

southy says...

Stillness wrote:
I shall be instructing my son to put my ashes in a bin bag and send it with the rest of the rubbish to land fill. £115:00 is a "RIP" off.
yea why not it don't really matter if your dead your not going to know any better and we all end up being recycled one way or another
[quote][p][bold]Stillness[/bold] wrote: I shall be instructing my son to put my ashes in a bin bag and send it with the rest of the rubbish to land fill. £115:00 is a "RIP" off.[/p][/quote]yea why not it don't really matter if your dead your not going to know any better and we all end up being recycled one way or another southy

8:31pm Mon 20 Jan 14

issacchunt says...

Pay the £115 and let the church dump the ashes in a similar way.
Pay the £115 and let the church dump the ashes in a similar way. issacchunt

9:09pm Mon 20 Jan 14

Oh my goodness says...

wwozzer wrote:
Instead of throwing words like "unceremonious" and "irreverent" around they could try being a little bit more "Christian" about it and just dealing with it.

However the ashes ended up there why not just take care of it in a selfless, non moaning to the press way out of respect for the deceased and compassion for the person who left them there and their possible distressed state of mind rather than carping on about procedure and fees.

I'm sure that this is probably a very rare event in the big scheme of things and I actually find it desperately sad.
Eloquently put.
[quote][p][bold]wwozzer[/bold] wrote: Instead of throwing words like "unceremonious" and "irreverent" around they could try being a little bit more "Christian" about it and just dealing with it. However the ashes ended up there why not just take care of it in a selfless, non moaning to the press way out of respect for the deceased and compassion for the person who left them there and their possible distressed state of mind rather than carping on about procedure and fees. I'm sure that this is probably a very rare event in the big scheme of things and I actually find it desperately sad.[/p][/quote]Eloquently put. Oh my goodness

9:39pm Mon 20 Jan 14

Sir Ad E Noid says...

KA wrote:
Maybe they were carrying out the wishes of the deceased...
What, dodge the fee?
[quote][p][bold]KA[/bold] wrote: Maybe they were carrying out the wishes of the deceased...[/p][/quote]What, dodge the fee? Sir Ad E Noid

6:28am Tue 21 Jan 14

nervousbumskin420 says...

dead, and still causing trouble...some people eh? (just kidding!!)
dead, and still causing trouble...some people eh? (just kidding!!) nervousbumskin420

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