Men who want to be babies

Daily Echo: Men who want to be babies Men who want to be babies

FROM the street, Stephanie and Roy’s house is much the same as any other on their Hampshire housing estate. But if you venture inside and up to the nursery, things start looking a little odd.

There’s a cot, a high chair and some children’s toys and books.

A cupboard which is decorated with Winnie the Pooh transfers contains a row of girlie outfits – all frills and bright colours.

But this is no child’s bedroom.

This is an adult baby “nursery”, where people come to dress up and be looked after as if they were infants. The specially-made cot is seven feet long and the high chair is sturdy enough to accommodate the six foot seven rugby player who sometimes uses it.

The “nursery” is run by married couple Stephanie – who takes on the role of “Mummy” – and Roy – an adult baby himself.

If he’s had a stressful day he comes home and he’s a growling bear at the door but if I put him into a towelling nappy and pants he can be asleep within half an hour

Stephanie

Stephanie, now in her mid-40s, met Roy when she was just 19. They were set up on a blind date and soon fell in love, getting engaged after six months.

As a boy, Roy wet the bed and this developed into him finding wearing nappies comforting and relaxing. Shortly after their relationship began, Stephanie found a pair of Roy’s plastic pants and confronted him.

“He broke down in floods of tears,” she says.

“He told me as much as he could but he didn’t know that there were other people out there with the same interest. He had no idea why he liked wearing nappies.

“I can’t say I accepted it straight away because I didn’t understand. But once he explained he likes to be the baby, to be cared for and feel secure, I understood it had nothing to do with being interested in children and I accepted it.”

Stephanie says the assumption that because adult babies like dressing as children they are paedophiles or have any interest in children is completely mistaken.

She adds that although the desire to wear a nappy and sometimes role-play as a baby is a fetish, it isn’t necessarily a sexual one.

“It’s a comfort thing for Roy, it helps him relax,” she says of her lorry driver husband’s ‘diaper loving’.

“If he’s had a stressful day he comes home and he’s a growling bear at the door but if I put him into a towelling nappy and pants he can be asleep within half an hour. I don’t see it as mothering him – I see it as caring. Sometimes I take care of him and sometimes he looks after me.”

Roy adds: “It’s going back to a state of having no worries and that time when you’re completely looked after. You don’t have any stress or have to think about the next bill. You put a nappy on and it’s just total relaxation. You lay there and you’re looked after. When I get really stressed out there’s nothing that can beat it. I used to drink badly but I don’t anymore. I’ve got my comfort blanket. You put it on and regress to that wonderful age when you had no cares.

“I think it’s something I’ll always do. I haven’t found anything that beats it for relaxation. After a couple of hours I’m relaxed for weeks.”

Daily Echo: Men who want to be babies

Stephanie says that although she might step into a mothering role when Roy is in adult baby mode – which happens about once a week – in the rest of their relationship they are very much husband and wife, not child and mother.

However, she does play more of a “Mummy” role for the men and women who visit her adult baby “nursery”.

The “nursery” came about when a male friend admired how Stephanie had put her husband’s nappy on for him and asked her to do his. She did as he asked and he suggested it was something she could go into as a business.

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10:19am Wed 11 Feb 09

enidx says...

ergh....

That is not right !!!

security word seat-play !!!
ergh.... That is not right !!! security word seat-play !!! enidx
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10:42am Wed 11 Feb 09

hulla baloo says...

Each to their own.
Now,where is my lunchtime bottle?
Each to their own. Now,where is my lunchtime bottle? hulla baloo
  • Score: 1

11:06am Wed 11 Feb 09

I Don't Like The New Echo Website says...

I normally read he Dorset Echo website but I found the Daily Echo by mistake. What kind of crazy place is Southampton? The Daily Echo is MUCH better than the dull Dorset Echo. You have shootings, muggings, people found dead in ladies underwear, man babies the list is endless. The Dorset Echo writes about flooding and cats stuck up trees that climbed down before the fire brigade arrived. You can also comment on nearly every story, instead of the ones that The Dorset Echo will allow you to. The Daily Echo rules!
I normally read he Dorset Echo website but I found the Daily Echo by mistake. What kind of crazy place is Southampton? The Daily Echo is MUCH better than the dull Dorset Echo. You have shootings, muggings, people found dead in ladies underwear, man babies the list is endless. The Dorset Echo writes about flooding and cats stuck up trees that climbed down before the fire brigade arrived. You can also comment on nearly every story, instead of the ones that The Dorset Echo will allow you to. The Daily Echo rules! I Don't Like The New Echo Website
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11:53am Wed 11 Feb 09

Denzil' says...

This is just sick, these people need locking up.
This is just sick, these people need locking up. Denzil'
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11:56am Wed 11 Feb 09

Denzil' says...

It could be worse I suppose, although half the time your comments go missing even if they are not rude or offensive.
It could be worse I suppose, although half the time your comments go missing even if they are not rude or offensive. Denzil'
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12:09pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Miles Sway says...

"male friend admired how Stephanie had put her husband’s nappy on for him and asked her to do his" did they invite him in to watch?
I had to check it wasn't April 1st, this is TOO weird!

"male friend admired how Stephanie had put her husband’s nappy on for him and asked her to do his" did they invite him in to watch? I had to check it wasn't April 1st, this is TOO weird! Miles Sway
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12:53pm Wed 11 Feb 09

realist returns says...

now come on, please, reassure me that this a spoof. I can't believe there are sickos like that around and, if there are, I' think I'd rather not know. Beurk!
now come on, please, reassure me that this a spoof. I can't believe there are sickos like that around and, if there are, I' think I'd rather not know. Beurk! realist returns
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2:35pm Wed 11 Feb 09

lowe and behold says...

Hey Echo why did you remove my post! i was only stateing the obvious.
Echo why post this rubbish this is kinky and sick maybe you lot have experienced it!
MAN BOOBS AND NAPPYS OUT!
Hey Echo why did you remove my post! i was only stateing the obvious. Echo why post this rubbish this is kinky and sick maybe you lot have experienced it! MAN BOOBS AND NAPPYS OUT! lowe and behold
  • Score: -1

2:49pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Nearly an OAP says...

I think these people need help. Psychiatric help.
I think these people need help. Psychiatric help. Nearly an OAP
  • Score: -1

2:55pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Vix1 says...

When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system.
When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system. Vix1
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3:18pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Miles Sway says...

Vix1 wrote:
When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system.
Don't you find it worrying that all the mental health services would offer is to section or increase medication?
Should a guy who dresses in women's clothing, or no clothes at all (Naked Rambler) be considered mentally ill just for their habit? Maybe it's odd to you and I, but it's only our perception of normal/strange that makes this bizarre.
Plainly this chap does it for relaxation and, if the story is correct, there are many others who find it the same. I find it utterly mad, but when you think about it, is it REALLY any odder than many other "pastimes" consenting adults get up to?
The idea that mental health services can only section/medicate for it is truly frightening. Heaven help anyone they deem not "normal"
[quote][p][bold]Vix1[/bold] wrote: When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system.[/p][/quote]Don't you find it worrying that all the mental health services would offer is to section or increase medication? Should a guy who dresses in women's clothing, or no clothes at all (Naked Rambler) be considered mentally ill just for their habit? Maybe it's odd to you and I, but it's only our perception of normal/strange that makes this bizarre. Plainly this chap does it for relaxation and, if the story is correct, there are many others who find it the same. I find it utterly mad, but when you think about it, is it REALLY any odder than many other "pastimes" consenting adults get up to? The idea that mental health services can only section/medicate for it is truly frightening. Heaven help anyone they deem not "normal" Miles Sway
  • Score: 1

3:34pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Reality-man says...

Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to?
Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to? Reality-man
  • Score: -1

3:42pm Wed 11 Feb 09

KA says...

Well what can one say, mind boggling to say the least.
Well what can one say, mind boggling to say the least. KA
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4:01pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Iain says...

Reality-man wrote:
Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to?
Now now, no need to throw your toys out the pram.
[quote][p][bold]Reality-man[/bold] wrote: Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to?[/p][/quote]Now now, no need to throw your toys out the pram. Iain
  • Score: 1

4:12pm Wed 11 Feb 09

hamble9 says...

OMG
OMG hamble9
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4:51pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Old Man of the Sea says...

Miles Sway wrote:
Vix1 wrote: When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system.
Don't you find it worrying that all the mental health services would offer is to section or increase medication? Should a guy who dresses in women's clothing, or no clothes at all (Naked Rambler) be considered mentally ill just for their habit? Maybe it's odd to you and I, but it's only our perception of normal/strange that makes this bizarre. Plainly this chap does it for relaxation and, if the story is correct, there are many others who find it the same. I find it utterly mad, but when you think about it, is it REALLY any odder than many other "pastimes" consenting adults get up to? The idea that mental health services can only section/medicate for it is truly frightening. Heaven help anyone they deem not "normal"
Be careful Miles
You are making coherent, sensible comments.
[quote][p][bold]Miles Sway[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Vix1[/bold] wrote: When I was working with mentally ill clients, if they had behaved like this they would have been sectioned, or at the very least had their medication increased! Why is it considered ok for so-called "normal" people to behave this way and not the mentally ill??!! To be honest, they must have mental health problems but have managed to stay out of the system.[/p][/quote]Don't you find it worrying that all the mental health services would offer is to section or increase medication? Should a guy who dresses in women's clothing, or no clothes at all (Naked Rambler) be considered mentally ill just for their habit? Maybe it's odd to you and I, but it's only our perception of normal/strange that makes this bizarre. Plainly this chap does it for relaxation and, if the story is correct, there are many others who find it the same. I find it utterly mad, but when you think about it, is it REALLY any odder than many other "pastimes" consenting adults get up to? The idea that mental health services can only section/medicate for it is truly frightening. Heaven help anyone they deem not "normal" [/p][/quote]Be careful Miles You are making coherent, sensible comments. Old Man of the Sea
  • Score: -1

4:52pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Northamboy says...

There's nowt as queer as folk!

Is it really something the Echo should be printing?
There's nowt as queer as folk! Is it really something the Echo should be printing? Northamboy
  • Score: 1

5:54pm Wed 11 Feb 09

The Grey Mystery says...

will you lot stop spitting your dummies out everybody needs a cuggle .
will you lot stop spitting your dummies out everybody needs a cuggle . The Grey Mystery
  • Score: 1

6:05pm Wed 11 Feb 09

MR Southampton says...

Its good to see that there is a place these people can go for support with this fetish.

Good luck with the business,hope it goes well for you.
Its good to see that there is a place these people can go for support with this fetish. Good luck with the business,hope it goes well for you. MR Southampton
  • Score: 1

6:44pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Reality-man says...

Iain wrote:
Reality-man wrote: Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to?
Now now, no need to throw your toys out the pram.
Only just seen your reply i was having my afternoon nap.
[quote][p][bold]Iain[/bold] wrote: [quote][p][bold]Reality-man[/bold] wrote: Perverted sicko's, what else do they get up to?[/p][/quote]Now now, no need to throw your toys out the pram.[/p][/quote]Only just seen your reply i was having my afternoon nap. Reality-man
  • Score: -1

7:29pm Wed 11 Feb 09

MattProbert says...

One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare.
One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare. MattProbert
  • Score: 1

7:45pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Miles Sway says...

MattProbert wrote:
One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare.
I'm not sure they'd all like to try this or anything else Matt but I understand your point.
I guess it all depends on how narrow the view of "normal" is; and for some posters here it's very narrow indeed.
[quote][p][bold]MattProbert[/bold] wrote: One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare. [/p][/quote]I'm not sure they'd all like to try this or anything else Matt but I understand your point. I guess it all depends on how narrow the view of "normal" is; and for some posters here it's very narrow indeed. Miles Sway
  • Score: 1

7:47pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Shazza (the genuine article, not an imposter) says...

Our Daily Echo also has TRAFFIC CHAOS and MOTORWAY MAYHEM too, more often than not.

And it has Phill Burner...
Our Daily Echo also has TRAFFIC CHAOS and MOTORWAY MAYHEM too, more often than not. And it has Phill Burner... Shazza (the genuine article, not an imposter)
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7:56pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Dr Alimantado says...

The only thing stranger than the stories is some of the people commenting on them.
The only thing stranger than the stories is some of the people commenting on them. Dr Alimantado
  • Score: 1

8:01pm Wed 11 Feb 09

obelisker says...

It's a harmless, rather eccentric indulgence, rather than women's undies it's an XXL Pampas..if it relieves stress and makes you happy, nobody is being hurt or abused so I don't have a problem with it. That said I do not think it is a suitable feature for a family newspaper, especially with photo's which to the viewer (especially children) are ridiculous and a bit disturbing..keep it within your own home, and dedicated websites.
It's a harmless, rather eccentric indulgence, rather than women's undies it's an XXL Pampas..if it relieves stress and makes you happy, nobody is being hurt or abused so I don't have a problem with it. That said I do not think it is a suitable feature for a family newspaper, especially with photo's which to the viewer (especially children) are ridiculous and a bit disturbing..keep it within your own home, and dedicated websites. obelisker
  • Score: 1

8:25pm Wed 11 Feb 09

OMG says...

This is not in the least bit perverted, but is a sign of problems. people who like this type of fetish, generaly are in jobs with a great deal of stress and like to revert back to childhood as an escape from it, or they may have missed out on a nurturing babyhood and need to know how it feels. However, living this type of fantasy, while possibly cathartic, does not help the individuals reality which stays the same. dealing with those issues in therapy would be longer lasting.
This is not in the least bit perverted, but is a sign of problems. people who like this type of fetish, generaly are in jobs with a great deal of stress and like to revert back to childhood as an escape from it, or they may have missed out on a nurturing babyhood and need to know how it feels. However, living this type of fantasy, while possibly cathartic, does not help the individuals reality which stays the same. dealing with those issues in therapy would be longer lasting. OMG
  • Score: 1

8:39pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Miles Sway says...

OMG wrote:
This is not in the least bit perverted, but is a sign of problems. people who like this type of fetish, generaly are in jobs with a great deal of stress and like to revert back to childhood as an escape from it, or they may have missed out on a nurturing babyhood and need to know how it feels. However, living this type of fantasy, while possibly cathartic, does not help the individuals reality which stays the same. dealing with those issues in therapy would be longer lasting.
Why?
If this satisfies the need why involve a therapist?
Some like a drink, maybe a recreational spliff or even, god forbid, watching little fishes in a tank, all to aid relaxation - do they all need therapists too?
[quote][p][bold]OMG[/bold] wrote: This is not in the least bit perverted, but is a sign of problems. people who like this type of fetish, generaly are in jobs with a great deal of stress and like to revert back to childhood as an escape from it, or they may have missed out on a nurturing babyhood and need to know how it feels. However, living this type of fantasy, while possibly cathartic, does not help the individuals reality which stays the same. dealing with those issues in therapy would be longer lasting.[/p][/quote]Why? If this satisfies the need why involve a therapist? Some like a drink, maybe a recreational spliff or even, god forbid, watching little fishes in a tank, all to aid relaxation - do they all need therapists too? Miles Sway
  • Score: -1

8:54pm Wed 11 Feb 09

King Mush says...

MattProbert wrote:
One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare.
I'm frightened to try it in case I enjoy it!
[quote][p][bold]MattProbert[/bold] wrote: One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare. [/p][/quote]I'm frightened to try it in case I enjoy it! King Mush
  • Score: 1

9:20pm Wed 11 Feb 09

itsmehere says...

Oh well, each to their own i surpose. Still strange though....
Oh well, each to their own i surpose. Still strange though.... itsmehere
  • Score: 1

9:39pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Dapman281 says...


One mans normalality is another mans perverison, at least it is in a private controlled place. When they hit the streets, would be the time to worry
One mans normalality is another mans perverison, at least it is in a private controlled place. When they hit the streets, would be the time to worry Dapman281
  • Score: 1

9:45pm Wed 11 Feb 09

suekennedy51@msn.com says...

why dosnt the play mother do a really good job on him and start potty training him, get him out of his need for nappies, put his meals at a grown up table,nuture him properly, just a suggestion from a mother..
why dosnt the play mother do a really good job on him and start potty training him, get him out of his need for nappies, put his meals at a grown up table,nuture him properly, just a suggestion from a mother.. suekennedy51@msn.com
  • Score: 1

10:31pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Hythe says...

Very strange, thought this only happened in the USA!!
Very strange, thought this only happened in the USA!! Hythe
  • Score: 1

10:59pm Wed 11 Feb 09

Reality-man says...

MattProbert wrote:
One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare.
Oh come on! One wonders if those who cannot see that this behaviour is weird and creepy aren't weird and creepy themselves!!
[quote][p][bold]MattProbert[/bold] wrote: One wonders if those who are so quick to shout "sicko" "pervert" and "mentally ill" are really comfortable with their own sexuality and sex life. They remind me of the homophobes one meets down the pub, the ones who are scared because they secretly want to try it but don't dare. [/p][/quote]Oh come on! One wonders if those who cannot see that this behaviour is weird and creepy aren't weird and creepy themselves!! Reality-man
  • Score: 1

8:00am Thu 12 Feb 09

Andy Locks Heath says...

I pity whoever has to wash the nappies - at least babies don't consume guinness and vindaloos
I pity whoever has to wash the nappies - at least babies don't consume guinness and vindaloos Andy Locks Heath
  • Score: -1

12:27pm Thu 12 Feb 09

Izabelle says...

Each to his/her own.
Each to his/her own. Izabelle
  • Score: 1
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